The sting of death and the silence of God

I’m not meant to be writing this. I’m meant to be compiling a sermon for this Sunday addressing the fifth question in our church’s ten-week series: You Asked For It.
The question is a predictable one: How Can a Good God Allow Suffering?

I sit down to create.
I picture myself before the congregation and my mind fills with theodicies.

God is sovereign over our suffering, I say. He is wise and good and does all things according to the counsel of his will!
I quote promises: He works all things for the good of those who love him! What they intended for evil, God intended for good! (I put emphasis on the ‘intended’ to prove that God isn’t passive in all this.)
And besides, I say, God created a perfect world. Our suffering is the product of our sin! We are the authors of our downfall! The engineers of our pain! The masterminds of our misery!

I’m cruising now. Equal parts Bill Lane Craig and Clive Staples Lewis. The noisy, clamouring counter-arguments of the World fall dumb beneath the sweep of my theodicean scythe. 

I AM GOD’S AVENGING ANGEL OF APOLOGETICS.

And then it all falls apart. The arguments go to dust in my mouth and I choke on them. 
I make a fatal error. I remember my oratorical training and search for an illustration to ground my abstract arguments in experience. 

And I see Her.
A picture of my Mother flanked by her family.
It’s her alright, but, it’s not her, too. Not really.
The portrait has been arranged to capture the family-in-full before it’s too late. Something to call to mind the beauty of what was. An image to outlive the fragility of memory.

She’s sick.

Cancer is advancing through her body like a militant host. Taking no prisoners. Defiling an image bearer like so many mercenaries pillaging a once pacific realm.

She’s sick and she's tired. 

The makeup is helping cover the dark rings around her deep brown eyes, once effulgent, but now fixed in a faraway gaze. 
The face, once continuously animated by lucidity and often arranged to form her characteristic grin, is now drawn, weary.
The hair, once thick, has been robbed by a final attempt at drug-induced redemption. The wig in its place tries valiantly, but fails to replicate what was.
She smiles, but it is the smile of a woman in deep, inequitable pain. 

The picture undoes me.
And it helps me see clearly.

The rhetorical supposition. The theological explanation. The philosophical abstraction.
It all serves a purpose. But its purpose is not to convince or elucidate or justify or compel… Its purpose is to protect. 
To protect me. 
To protect the boy, just turned 8, from going back into that room. That room of vacancy. That room of grief. That room that held the body, but released the soul of my dead Mother.

I remember that room. 
I remember seeing her there, but knowing she was gone. I remember kissing her cheek and receiving nothing in return. For the first time in my life an expression of affection went utterly unanswered. Perfectly unreciprocated. 
There was nothing but a vacant lot where love once dwelled.

“O death, where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?”

Where? Seriously, where?
It’s here, damn it! It’s here! It’s in this room. It’s in this woman's bed. It’s in this boy’s heart.
It takes up the space vacated by peace and goodness and comfort.

It's here.

So. For now.
To hell with your theodicies. They are inept. Deficient.
They only enhance the sting and reinforce the void. 

So. For now.
I’m with Jack.

He was a wonderful apologist, our Mr. Lewis. Brilliant in mind and strong in faith - in spite of the fact that he, too, lost his Mum when he was young. And then, as if to prove that Death cares not for equity, his wife died too.

Soon after, and still reeling, he wrote:

When you are happy, so happy you have no sense of needing Him, so happy that you are tempted to feel His claims upon you as an interruption, if you remember yourself and turn to Him with gratitude and praise, you will be — or so it feels — welcomed with open arms. But go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face, and a sound of bolting and double bolting on the inside. After that, silence.
— C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

I’m sure, come Sunday, I’ll extoll God’s goodness. I’ll tell those gathered that He is good and trustworthy and benevolent. That He is present in our sufferings. That He is sovereign over our miseries.

I'm sure all that is true.

But for now.
As I stand alone in my Mother's room. All is silent. All is dark.